I have been experiencing a dramatic changes in event in my love life. Deep Deep down I wanted it to work and deep deep down I knew it was over. I was experiencing some battle within myself in regard to what to do. I later got a confirmation. I believe God uses people or someone give you answer somehow, they say seek and you will receive answer. I finally knew I have to "let go". Of course things are still in process, in term of legal matters, but finally within me I finally have peace within myself. I call this "growth".
You know what the best part is? I have to share this with everyone because it is an overstanding that many people commonly make a mistake in. Tonight, God give me this wisdom to share with everyone. Although I already make my decision of letting the person go, I still was feeling very confuse in the inside. I did not understand why I was feeling this way and I can't help but to have thoughts in my mind. I started to become judgemental of the person and try figuring out the person motive, which I probably will never know unless God choose to reveal it to me. I believe God protect us and he will only feed us in the amount he know will make us full. However, sometime people asks for more then what they can handle, which can lead to unfortunate events. My point is I started to see myself as a "victim" a victim of my ex-spouse. I felt used and betray, this of course is normal. But here is where wisdom come in. Did you know that when you see yourself as victim most likely you are going to experience similar experiencing or bitterness which always replay as you being a victim? You see those who continue to see themselves as victim continue to make mistakes. It is quiet easy to see yourself as victim in this imperfect world. Here a few: Are you a victim of war? divorce? past failures? foods? etc. You see the way we acts, thinks, feel deep down inside in our soul, always display or manifest somehow, and we will confront ourselves and reasoning with ourselves as victim using it as an excuses for our mistakes. Well, here come wisdom.
I no longer feel angry toward my ex-spouse because I relies and choose not to be a victim. When something dramatic changes occur in your life, there always various of actions or roads to take, which one do you choose? I know it is hard and often easy to feel like a victim, but forgiveness does set you free. That was my world, with that I always suddenly feel very beautiful? You know why? because within me I feel like I have a very beautiful soul. Some people may say I am too kind and give me advice on what to do next? All in good intentions, for example, like my brother right away he was like child support and stuff basically, telling me I should not let the person off easily. I believe he say this because he was a "victim" of divorce. I actually do not know what I will do next, I think the more I have peace and clarity when the times come I will know what to do, just like this situation in term of letting my ex go. All the glories goes to God. I know he will guide me so I am rest assure, plus I know I did all I can and so I have peace.
What that say, I have to consider what is best for my child. Divorce is a reality of many families and result always impact the kids. Did you know your bitterness toward your ex will impact your child? I have seen it in many families. Even in your nonverbal action your child will sense it. I want my child to have a good start in life and be wonderful young man, of course I will have to be the example and reality is my ex is still going to be around my son and I think it is best. Many women because of their bitterness use the child support as mean to get even. Child support take almost half of the person earning, it depend, all i know it is a good amount. Sometimes, the person who pay child support, especially because they might already see themselves as victim, will become withdrawn and may not even want to be around the child because of all the battle and the bitterness the parents have toward each other. It can easily become an cycle and defiantly affect the child well being. When making your decision I think it is good to be considerate, it is simple act of kindness. If the person, agree without a fights great! but if there is hesitation and a battle I don't think it is worth creating issues over this matter and probably can come to some sort of agreedment.Always, check your own motive. I know this is not always the case, sometime some guys, leave women without nothing financially so. In my case, I believe I can use a simple act of faith and trust in God, which mean my action should be in alignment to his words. I am pretty sure what a simple act of kindness you will be favor and somethings good will work out. The person might come to realization on their own.I do not want to risks my child feeling angry toward his dad, I will have to forgive the person and furthermore pray for the person to return to God. How many people will sincerely pray for people who have done them wrong? Hopefully, a lot of people. But the point is that is beauty. Wouldn't you want to be around this kind of person? I am very confident and have high self esteem I can't help it. All the glories goes to God. LOL all of sudden I feel like laughing and enjoying life because I get it, which is the start of a successful new life and more good things to come. God is good.
May everyone find peace and happiness, no matter what situation you are in. Know that this to shall pass.
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