The reality of the single it is hard but I know I can make it. I did some reflection of my life, after getting frausterated with Trocon last night again. It hit me the reality that I am a single mother. I will soon have to make many decisions. I works with kids every day at the BGC I knew that majority of the families there was single parent. It was true in number more than half was. Some of the kids have some behavorial problems. The solution lies on the parent, but what can you do when you have to work and provide for your kid. I finally understood, something single parent just don't have a choice.
My original plan after I graduate was to take summer off and spent time with my son. I knew I have not spent enough time with him, especially now that he is turning 3 I wanted to take time to potty train him, cause my babysitter grandma and aunt is not going to teach him. This of course changes, cause now I am a single mother. I need some sort of income to pay the bills and live comfortable. It looks likey daycare or childcare is one option, although I was so resistant to it before. The things is, I will still most comfortable if he is potty train before going to daycare or childcare. I don't know what the future holds but for me I had to hold true to my vaule which is family, before all else. I think I need to find a part time job allow me to work only 3 days with a good pay, this will give me times with my son. I lost the opportunity with BGC they are no longer hiring however I know they will again cause lots of people will be quiting in the Fall. I am just going to leave it to God and do my part put application in. Something will work out that will fit my need. I have to be pickey I don't want to work cause I need money, the work should work for me. I think we must never forget I value and what we hold true to.
It is tough being a single parent. Single parent is often misunderstood. They get judge for not parenting their kids right. Blame for having kids to early and more. I know when I was pregnate I never thought my life will be this way, do you think if people really know will they have done it? No. Well, I should take responsibility though. That why I recommend wait if you don't have your stuff together. Because you can focus on whatever is you doing. When you have a thrid person you time is divided. My ex took the easy way out and left me, so that he can live his dream and live the way he was used to. I am not judging the person but I think majority of it was he can't take it no more. I will be frausterated and yes, I was unkind and nag because I had expectations just like he does, for this reason, we end up the way we are now. It is good for my son anyways, cause he is more happy. Sometime making that big decision is in the best interests of the family. I have seen family together and argued alot sometime it is not worth it when two people are still unmature. Sometime leaving the other person not only help you because you are no longer obligated to the other person, let he or she grow on by themself instead of frosting them is best. Okay back to judging others. It is not good don't do it. I am gulity of doing it at the store and even at school. I am pretty we have encounter a situation when we went to the store and witness a situation where the babies crying non stop. I had that situation I remembered feeling embrass cause I could see the people around me looking disgusied as if I did not try to calm my son down. My one day I went to the store to buy some goods for the household maybe even for my son and people stared and judge me, as if I was not supposed to even come, like I come to the store everyday or something. The point is no one like this situation they tried their best and something kids will be kids. Next time, I see the situation like this I won't judge, instead, I might even offer some help or say something nice. When this happened to me, it would have been nice to have some say " I know, what you going through you try your best" wow that is powerful. Too much in our lives we have people saying negative words; instead of nice, supportive words. If one person instead of giving me advice or tips tell me " Nan, you are amazing, you try your best" that would have been wonderful and encouraging, that will keep me motivated. I made another commitment to praise others and be postive whearther than negative words. Actually, the group of people who some what give me postive words is people at school. Many is growing through the same thing I am , maybe that is why they are so encouraging. I will work hard to be postive.
I was a very postive person, I kind of lost it when I got married because I started to have expectations, fraustration, etc. I want my son to have an admireable mother with the postive energy.
That my words for now.
All the best and keep it postive,
NAN
My original plan after I graduate was to take summer off and spent time with my son. I knew I have not spent enough time with him, especially now that he is turning 3 I wanted to take time to potty train him, cause my babysitter grandma and aunt is not going to teach him. This of course changes, cause now I am a single mother. I need some sort of income to pay the bills and live comfortable. It looks likey daycare or childcare is one option, although I was so resistant to it before. The things is, I will still most comfortable if he is potty train before going to daycare or childcare. I don't know what the future holds but for me I had to hold true to my vaule which is family, before all else. I think I need to find a part time job allow me to work only 3 days with a good pay, this will give me times with my son. I lost the opportunity with BGC they are no longer hiring however I know they will again cause lots of people will be quiting in the Fall. I am just going to leave it to God and do my part put application in. Something will work out that will fit my need. I have to be pickey I don't want to work cause I need money, the work should work for me. I think we must never forget I value and what we hold true to.
It is tough being a single parent. Single parent is often misunderstood. They get judge for not parenting their kids right. Blame for having kids to early and more. I know when I was pregnate I never thought my life will be this way, do you think if people really know will they have done it? No. Well, I should take responsibility though. That why I recommend wait if you don't have your stuff together. Because you can focus on whatever is you doing. When you have a thrid person you time is divided. My ex took the easy way out and left me, so that he can live his dream and live the way he was used to. I am not judging the person but I think majority of it was he can't take it no more. I will be frausterated and yes, I was unkind and nag because I had expectations just like he does, for this reason, we end up the way we are now. It is good for my son anyways, cause he is more happy. Sometime making that big decision is in the best interests of the family. I have seen family together and argued alot sometime it is not worth it when two people are still unmature. Sometime leaving the other person not only help you because you are no longer obligated to the other person, let he or she grow on by themself instead of frosting them is best. Okay back to judging others. It is not good don't do it. I am gulity of doing it at the store and even at school. I am pretty we have encounter a situation when we went to the store and witness a situation where the babies crying non stop. I had that situation I remembered feeling embrass cause I could see the people around me looking disgusied as if I did not try to calm my son down. My one day I went to the store to buy some goods for the household maybe even for my son and people stared and judge me, as if I was not supposed to even come, like I come to the store everyday or something. The point is no one like this situation they tried their best and something kids will be kids. Next time, I see the situation like this I won't judge, instead, I might even offer some help or say something nice. When this happened to me, it would have been nice to have some say " I know, what you going through you try your best" wow that is powerful. Too much in our lives we have people saying negative words; instead of nice, supportive words. If one person instead of giving me advice or tips tell me " Nan, you are amazing, you try your best" that would have been wonderful and encouraging, that will keep me motivated. I made another commitment to praise others and be postive whearther than negative words. Actually, the group of people who some what give me postive words is people at school. Many is growing through the same thing I am , maybe that is why they are so encouraging. I will work hard to be postive.
I was a very postive person, I kind of lost it when I got married because I started to have expectations, fraustration, etc. I want my son to have an admireable mother with the postive energy.
That my words for now.
All the best and keep it postive,
NAN
i kinda know what u mean but at the same time i remember that baby situation u describe and i not here to judge, but i do belive she should do her best for her child though because she just didnt seem to care the baby pro was cranky and tired, it never the baby fault but the fact that she care and tend to her baby needs and only focus on her shopping and just letting her baby cry for 30 min straight i think that too much for the kids it more concern about the child safety more like it.She should of remove herself from the situation though instead of letting the baby cry n cry i think what u said of trocon is kind of diff cuz he older and that how kids are when they are out on public, the best thing i guess advice is just remove urself n ur kid from the situation, riri do that to me once in awhile and that the best way i think, but yeah single mother is hard but u lucky to have support though.
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